With men supposedly being the more visually stimulated of the sexes; it surprises me that so many are uncomfortable with the idea of incorporating sex toys into their relationships.

Many men have reported finding the idea of their partners wanting or using a vibrator to be somewhat threatening or offensive to them and I can only guess after my own experience that it has to do with a jealousy or fear that she will enjoy the silicone dick more than yours and not need you anymore (picture big, burly guy yelling: “What the fuck do you need that for-isn’t my cock enough for you??” as horrified shoppers of the Sex Shack looked on!)

Nowadays, there are literally hundreds of toys on the market that are made specifically with couples in mind, so you don’t need to settle for the big, bad, realistic cock! But, while we’re talking about the cock-like toys, let me just ask you: would it really be so bad to watch your gal as she lays back, spreads her legs and teases her pussy with it for you? Still not feelin’ it? How about taking it in your hand (and no, it doesn’t make you gay) and sliding into her wet, waiting hole? Big, rubber cock’s lookin’ a lot less scary, ain’t it?

Now, let’s get back to toys that are couple friendly. The most popular are the vibrating cock rings which are pliable “rings” that have a vibrating bullet attached to them. You slide it down to the base of your penis and turn on the vibe. The idea is, that as you’re inside your partner, the vibrating bullet stimulates her clit and you at the same time-not a bad deal, huh?

My personal favorites are the remote-controlled strap-on vibes. Before you cringe with visions of having your ass invaded-I’m not talking about that kind of strap-on-though if that’s your thing; kudos to you! The kind I’m referring to are flat vibes that fit in her panties and some even come as vibrating panties. The hot thing about these are the discretion factor, meaning that she can wear them to a romantic dinner while you hold the remote and control every erotic buzz from across the table. You can make her cum during somewhere between the crab cakes and dessert without anyone being the wiser!

Finally there is the latest gadget which has taken the tech and sex world by storm: the iBuzz Two. This toy, that looks much like an iPod, has two vibrating bullets and two headphone jacks. It plugs into your music playing device of choice (iPod, MP3, etc) and vibrates to the beat of your tunes! All you have to do is agree on the music and one of the eleven vibration settings, then lay back and enjoy.

So keep an open mind and think: “mutual satisfaction” when choosing your toy and don’t forget that you can even turn your shopping excursion into foreplay with the right attitude. Toys can make your sex life even sexier if, you let them…

by Adrie Santos Photo: www.ronharris.com