Most guys agree getting oral is one of life’s simple pleasures. It’s brings true pleasure and nothing makes a man feel more pampered – sexually. For a guy, there’s nothing quite so sexy watching you work your magic on his member. Here’s how to master the basics of a mind-blowing blow job:
1) Drive him mad your hands and tongue. Us guys love the anticipation of oral and a slow intro works magic. If he’s not already naked, start with some light but firm touching on top of his clothes, running your fingers over his groin area, inside his thighs and along his belt line. Wen you feel him getting hard, unzip him and let his cock pop out. Pull down his pants to his knees (it lets him move a better) and spend time with your hands. Work gently with him – remember, his cock may be rock hard, but it needs a tender touch. Grab his ass a bit and stroke the underside of his balls and cock with your fingers. Drive him crazy by keeping your slightly open mouth close to the action, then use your hand to move his cock to your mouth. Run your lips along the sides while holding his cock, kiss the head and lick the underside of his penis. Eye contact is especially sexy since he’ll be looking down at all the action.
2) Zone him into ecstasy with your mouth. He might start holding your head – it’s a sign he can’t take it anymore. You may need to settle into a more comfortable position, or at least one you can hold for a while. Now, hold his cock with your hand at the base and envelope his head with your mouth. Focus on the head for now, and slowly work the base of his penis with your hand being careful not to grab too hard (sometimes, a light ring made with your fingers is perfect). Work up saliva and go a bit deeper, bringing your hand motion to meet your mouth. The wetness will help glide your hand over his skin and really heat things up as you combine hand and mouth. Rhythm and speed is important, so count out a steady beat in your head to keep him on track. Keep in mind, guys need the same kind of sensation during oral as they have during intercourse, so mimic the slippery rhythm.
3) Add variety to finish. Since oral can last a while, give him and yourself some variety by adding some out-of-mouth technique. If you have enough saliva on his skin, let his cock pop out of your mouth and stroke him with your hand, top to bottom at the same speed. Lick the sides of his penis and then go back to using your mouth. Stoke him while licking his testicles and along the underside of his cock. Alternate between these and your mouth, picking up speed as you go. A lot of eye contact, a bit of dirty talk and even some sexy touching of yourself add to the mental rush of it all.
Tips:
- Use a light touch with your hands
- Your hands and mouth make an amazing oral symphony
- Smiles and eye contact is a major turn on
Have fun!
By Blake Palmerston
Filed under: Expertise for her | Tagged: Blow Job, Fellatio, Oral sex
Great tips! Thanks. My hubby seems to enjoy (if only he knew where I’m gettin’ the secrets).
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Give me visual!
What about a soft bite? Do guys like it?
So I’ve got a situation and I’m looking for some advice.
My S/O and I have been together for over 3 years. We live together, we’re getting married this year, we have a great relationship with very little strife, and most importatnly we’re best friends. We also have some great sex too.
When we came together, I was a virgin, but I had received some oral to completion from a previous relationship. Believe me, it felt AWESOME.
Herein lies my situation.. My S/O pretty much hates to give oral to me. I mean, I bet over the course of our relationship I’ve received oral maybe ten times, and never for more than about 3 minutes, and definitely never close to completion. I’m totally not one of those guys who needs head to function, I can totally get by without it. However, a little oral once in a while as a surprise would totally make my day.
My S/O knows that she doesn’t like to give oral, and I’ll tease her about it occasionally and she kind of gets embarrassed. When I say tease, she’ll ask me what I REALLY want for my birthday and I’ll hint in that direction she’ll get red and embarrassed and say something about it. She doesn’t get mad, at least that I can see, she almost gets embarrassed that she doesn’t like to do it.
The other night we were messing around and I kind of hinted toward getting some oral and I think she kind of felt obligated to do it. So she got down and did her thing. This was the first time in about 10 months. Believe me, she may think she’s bad at it, but in all honesty it feels good when she does it. I tell her this, tell her how good it feels, but she says she just kind of gets grossed out and says that her jaw hurts after about a minute or two. I always try and keep my area down there clean, especially if I think there’s a REMOTE possibility of her going down there. I kind of felt bad when she reluctantly did it, I don’t like her to feel obligated she has to do ANYTHING for me if she doesn’t want to.
I’m not stingy with the oral on her either. I LOVE to get my face down there and bring her to orgasm. I usually spring it on her as a surprise, but it’s definitely something I like to do for her. I enjoy it, and I enjoy seeing her enjoy it. Sometimes she says things like “you know you don’t have to do that” and such, I think she feels guilty that I’m all eager to get down there and she has zero interest in reciprocating.
If this is something that never changed, it wouldn’t be an issue. I love her too much. However, if I knew how to get her not to fear giving oral or how to enjoy giving it more, that would be great. Has anyone been in this situation?
I was in the same position as you at one time. I started going down on my gf WAY before she got truly comfortable going down on me. When she first started out she told me she was nervous, and after she did it for the first time she felt like she hadn’t done a good job (even though she did fine, and i told her that) and she said it hurt her mouth (much like your s/o). She was very insecure about her oral skills for a while, and i got almost no oral. Now, she gives it to me every time we have sex and it even turns her on! It’s all about encouragement. It sounds like you’re doing all you can in that department. If you keep telling her that she did a good job, she’ll probably eventually come around and try it again, and who knows? she might get completely comfortable with it.
I’m not sure what to suggest really but just wanted to say that I know what you are going through.
My husband never had a problem with giving me oral….always did it…always enjoyed it….I never had to ask for it and vice versa. Then one day….for the life of me I can’t figure it out….he just quit giving me oral and never gives it to me. I “hint” at it as well but I think he actually gets upset. I did the whole “If your not gonna give me oral I’m not gonna give you oral” and that lasted for a while…but he still never wanted to give me oral and well I missed having his cock in my mouth so that was enough of that.
Still going through it….and let me tell you….I’m sick of it. So here I sit wondering the same thing you do….how can you get your partner to go down town.