The Erotic Pleasure of Masturbation, Alone and With Your Partner

Want to learn what it takes to give yourself mind-blowing orgasms every time? Then you are in luck, because these simple steps will send you well on your way to lovin’ yourself right!

Too few of us even consider masturbation a part of our “sex lives”, but solo play can be one of the most important things that you do for you and your partner, because when it’s just you and your desire; anything goes which is the perfect opportunity for you to relax and learn what feels good.

There are a couple of myths about masturbation that you need to banish from your mind in order to get the most from this yummy pastime, so repeat after me: Masturbation is not dirty or wrong, even if my mother/father/priest says it is! Once your mind is free of any negative views on self play; it’s time to truly get in touch with yourself.

First, you need to set aside some quiet time so you can relax and enjoy without any unwanted interruptions. Pull out all the stops and do whatever it takes to make you feel sexy whether it’s a warm bath, candles or Barry White playing in the background. Next, use the power of your mind to get you in the mood. Fantasizing is a great way to get your juices flowing—literally! Thinking back to a hot encounter from your past, or imagining Brad Pitt licking every inch of your body will help prime you for action.

Next, begin to touch yourself and pay attention to what feels good. Some women find it helpful and very erotic to watch themselves in a mirror as they explore their bodies and I must say that having a visual could make it a lot easier to share the directions to your hot spots with your partner, cuz’ lets face it; some guys really do need a map to know where things are even if they never dare stop to ask for directions!

Now the fun part: technique. Running your fingers lightly over your skin will help to arouse you allover. Take advantage of your hardened nipples and rub them, pinch them or even wet your finger and tease them—self lovin’ doesn’t need to be limited to your pussy alone! Tease your inner thighs with light caresses, or if you like things a little rougher-knead the flesh between your fingers—whatever feels good to you and it shouldn’t be long before you’re feeling hornier than a teenage boy on prom night!

Once you’re feeling that familiar longing within, it’s time to get wet. For some women; lube is just not an issue and they have plenty to go around, but for others, there is always store bought lubricant. Being wet will make for a much easier and more pleasurable session since it will allow your hands or toys to slip about with ease.

All wet and ready to go? Enjoy that sensuous and juicy pussy of yours by placing your palm flat down and rubbing it slowly over your vulva. Pay extremely close attention here and go back and apply extra pressure on any of the spots that feel especially good.

Take a finger and experiment with different strokes and flicks over these spots. The most common source of pleasure is the clit, so with your lubed finger, begin rubbing your nub where it feels best and keep at it until you find a pressure and pace that is especially delicious. Another way to increase the sensation is to experiment with your breathing; taking deeper, longer breaths will help up the WOW-factor and help you to really savor the experience. Another technique that will help make your self-love session hotter is to gyrate or raise and lower your pelvis as you might during sex. It isn’t just about fingers and hands my friends!!

One other thing that you can try is to slip a finger or two, or a dildo inside your pussy, because even though most women need clitoral stimulation to climax; the feeling of being filled while you stroke your clit can make your orgasm even better.

Once you have found your groove; keep at it; tweaking as needed until you begin to feel the wave of pleasure as your orgasm makes its way through your body. Don’t let anything hold you back and just let go and ride the wave! Moan, scream, cry—let your body do whatever the heck it wants so long as it feels good and helps you to cum like never before.

Your parents and teachers had something when they said that “practice makes perfect”. Far better than piano lessons or math; practicing and fine tuning your masturbation skills will prove far more enjoyable and not at all like a chore! Use your skills to impress your lover by showing him what you’ve been up to; which brings me to masturbating for/with your man.

The act of playing with yourself in front of your partner is incredibly erotic even if the idea of putting on a show seems a little scary to you. If stage fright is a real problem; begin with some wet, sexy kissing and other foreplay, and once you’re both deep in the throws of passion, place his hand on his cock, flash a wicked grin and then begin to play with your pussy—he’ll get the gist pronto!

Some key things to keep in mind when masturbating for your man:

– Eye contact is not only erotic but very intimate and is sure to enhance the experience for you both.

– Confidence is sexy… period.

- Finally; enjoy yourself because seeing you turned on will excite him to no end and let’s face it; it’ll work in your favor cuz nothing feels better than a hard cock pushing into you once you’ve just finished climaxing! So go ahead and scream like a banshee—he’ll love it!

by Adrie Santos

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