Having to conjure up images of your mom to stop you from blowing your load too soon in bed? Well torture yourself no more! These tasty tips on how to last longer no matter how hot your partner will have you givin’ it to her all night long!
First things first; we gotta figure out if you are just a little eager or are actually a premature ejaculator. It’s natural to want to last a long time in bed and to feel inadequate when you don’t quite make your personal quota, but by putting the extra pressure on yourself, you are actually making things worse.A premature ejaculator is defined as a man who ejaculates sooner than he or his partner wish during the majority of sexual encounters. Because there is no real standard as to when a guy should blow his load, the only way for a doctor to really assess the problem is to go over a series of questions about your medical history and your upbringing.Before you put yourself at the mercy of your doc, you may want to consider the following tips – most of which will be recommended by your doctor long before he sends you the Viagra route.
Tip 1: Masturbate. Masturbate. Then masturbate some more! The more you do it, the more your body becomes accustomed to stimulation. Over time, this will make it easier to last longer. This is also great because it gives you a chance (or two!) to get to know your body better.
Tip 2: The Stop & Start Method. I so affectionately refer to this as ‘The Cock Tease’ – involves bringing yourself close to cumming and then stopping the stimulation and then doing it all over again (hence the ‘cock tease’). You can do this to yourself or get your partner to help you out. A couple of weeks of this and you should start to see a difference in your stamina.
Tip 3: Wear a condom. You should be doing this anyway you bad boy, but if you’re not, then it’s time to start. We’ve all heard the constant griping and bitching that condoms take away from the sex. Well in this case it’s a good thing. Skip the super-thin kind and opt for the heavy duty variety to help decrease sensation. If you can find a brand that fits on the smaller side of the spectrum, it can almost act as a makeshift cock ring and limit the leakage of blood from your erection and help keep you hard longer.
Tip 4: Surprise – a Cock Ring! As mentioned in the last tip, a cock ring wraps around the base of the penis and keeps you hard by almost trapping the blood in your erection to keep you hard longer. Check out sex shops and online sex toy distributors for all kinds of cool cock rings.
Tip 5: Just Breathe. This may sound super cheesy and yogi-esque, but being aware of your breathing is simple and effective. When you’re doin’ the do and the excitement level starts to build, focus on slowing your breathing down. Breathe in through your nose and out through your mouth all nice and easy. This will keep the excitement at bay and give you something else to concentrate on.And a final thought before you run off in search of condoms and cock rings – stop beating yourself up about this! Women are a lot more understanding about this sort of thing than you may think. While you’re busy feeling bad for cutting things short, we’re secretly flattered that we were able to push you over the edge so quickly.
So relax already!
by Adrie Santos
Filed under: Expertise for him | Tagged: Premature ejaculation
I find changing position works wunders too! Flip her around, get on the bottom, finish from behind…
Nice article, added to favourites
The last couple of times me and my girlfriend have had sex, haven’t gone so great. The first time, I came too early. The last time, she couldn’t orgasm… and of course, because I was too preoccupied with why she couldn’t orgasm, I couldn’t climax after, either.
There’s some background points…
I’m in love my girlfriend and she is everything to me. She can turn me on like a light switch, and honestly does on a daily basis wether we have sex or not. She’s attractive, physically and personality wise… in fact, she’s the most attractive girl I’ve ever been with in both of those respects.
Up until a couple of weeks ago, we’d been living on opposite ends of the world ever since we’ve been together (October ‘07). So sex hasn’t always been as regular as we’ve wanted sometimes. But we’re planning on spending at least the next 6 months together so, that shouldn’t be a problem anymore.
I lost my virginity to her. Whilst I had been sexually active with other women before we got introduced to each other, she’s the only girl I’ve ever had intercourse with. In contrast, she’s had a few years worth more experience than me. Which hasn’t really ever bothered me, but I guess I’ve just never really had to think about premature ejaculation, whereas she might have had to deal with it with other men.
So I’ve done some reading up on the whole issue, and was kind of comforted by the fact that half of men experience it at some point and it only ever lasts a short period of time.
I guess I’m looking for some direction… if it’s even possible to give any at this point. I mean, the time I came to early, I was just really aroused by her… like I said, she turns me on flat out. And sometimes, I just come quick. I can’t help that… it’s not like I can say to her, hey would you mind not turning me on so much? right? She can’t help it anymore than I can.
The last time we had sex, she couldn’t orgasm. I think it was my fault. At points I was either feeling like I was coming too quickly so had to slow down, or I was worrying about coming too quickly, because of what happened the last time. I don’t think it helped that ever since the time I came too early, she’d been making fun of the fact that I came quick… in a totally friendly, bantering way, which was fine!… it never got to me at the time. But while we were having sex I think it got to me more than I even knew myself.
I’m embarrassed and I’ve lost confidence in myself at the moment… and I feel like I’ll be scared of having sex for the rest of my life. I’m such a wanker. On top of that, I feel like a prick because I imagine some of the things going through her head are or have been that she’s not attractive, or good in bed… which is far, far from the truth.
I miss her, I miss having sex with her, making love to her… I just want this whole thing over with.
whatever happens mate, do not lose confidence… that will only make things worse. If you really wanna up your game… get a fleshlight and practice on that.
Find your threshold of constant thrust and set yourself a goal. You can do it if you take the time. It is hard work though and you will need to set aside about 30 mins everyday to do it but if you want it badly enough then you will. I was in a very similiar situation to you with my girlfriend who lived on the otherside of the world to me…. but i got there in the end.
Don’t think so much about and enjoy each other. Make love, explore each other and things will happen. Don’t put so much pressure on yourself.
My husband used to have a similar problem. Well, not a problem. He just used to get so excited, he would go off as soon as he put it in.
Practice makes perfect. You just have to get used to the feelings and you will get past a fast ejaculation.
One of the ways to give a woman an orgasm is to keep her excitement level high. Stopping the action looses the mood , then it becomes a chore.
Do you use condoms? If she is on the patch, even if she isn’t, go down on her and give her a little oral. If you are young, you should recover in a min. or so. Remember, don’t loose the mood.
“it’s not like I can say to her, hey would you mind not turning me on so much? right?”
Actually, it might be to your advantage to say things like this. For one it lets her know that you are into her and boosts her confidence about herself and two it shows her that you have the confidence to say it to her and it lets her know exactly why this is happening at all. Don’t give her a chance to think that it is something else.
Nevertheless, there are techniques to prevent premature ejaculation that you and her can try together. It is important that you guys explore each other and work through these things together. It will only make you stronger.
Good Luck
Here’s the deal. You are at your sexual peak…which means that as each day goes by, your premature ejaculation will get less. One idea is to get a good physical to INCLUDE a good talk with the Doc who can recommend a drug to slow you down. And/Or try a desensitizer from the drugstore. The masturbate before idea is cool.
And even though, it may continue to happen. When it does, just let it happen,enjoy it… excuse yourself to the bathroom, wash up with cold water, and get back at it for a second, or even a third round. Point is concentrate on her pleasure and she concentrates on yours…and you found the key to a happy sex life even if you PE. You two sound like you have a great relationship.