Ready to take it to the next level in your anal play and break one of the biggest taboos out there? These tips will help you make the most of anal sex once you’re ready to kick it up a notch and graduate from a finger to a penis!
If you’re reading this article, chances are that you are no stranger to anal play (if you’d like to learn some basics, try this story) and have learned to enjoy the feeling of a toy, tongue or finger in your ass. Being comfortable with anal stimulation or even the mere idea of it is a good start because when it comes to the anus, there is no room for being uptight! Anal sex is still considered somewhat taboo and has the stigma of being uncomfortable, dirty and painful, but handled properly; it can be extremely pleasurable, erotic and safe. Follow these guidelines for making your bum-sex experience as hot as it should be.
As important as an open and mind and willing partner is lube-and lots of it! Unlike the vagina, the anus isn’t going to become juicy no matter how amazing the foreplay, and since we are dealing with a much smaller opening that doesn’t always cooperate the way a pussy might; you will have to stock up on the lube if you want to make penetration as smooth as possible. Your best bets are water-based lubricants since they are latex-safe and won’t compromise the effectiveness of condoms.
Speaking of condoms; it is highly recommended to use them when in engaging in anal sex because the risk of disease and infection is greater because of the delicate skin in this area. At risk of making you go limp; it’s important that you both understand that the possibility of tearing the delicate tissue in the rectum is what increases your chances of infection here. Also, because of the types of bacteria that live in this area; irritation is another possibility, so condom use is advised for hygienic reasons as well.
Assuming that you haven’t been put off by all that clinical mumbo-jumbo; once you’re all relaxed and lubed up, slipping a finger in to help get the sphincter ready is a good idea and will help get the lube in where it counts. When both of you are ready to proceed; begin slowly—very slowly! Taking deep breaths will help to relax and expand the opening, so it’s a good idea to synchronize the breaths with each light push of the penis. If either one of you is feeling any pain, chances are that you’re doing something wrong and should take it even slower.
A heads up for the person who has the pleasure of being on the receiving end; you may feel a pressure that is similar to what you feel when you’ve “gotta go”—this feeling is normal, so instead of clamming up in fear that you’re about to do somethin’ nasty, go against your urge and push out because it will actually help expand your opening and make it easier for you to take in his luscious cock!
Like any other new “activity”, it’ll take some getting used to and some practice till you both find your groove, so even once you’ve managed to pass base camp one in the Mount Everest of anal—don’t get over ambitious! Keep the movements slow and controlled until it comes more naturally before progressing to an all-out ass pounding.
To help make anal even more enjoyable, there are all kinds of anal-friendly positions to look forward to and experiment with aside from the typical doggie-style; which though the most common, is not necessarily the best choice for an anal-newbie.
The Missionary position is actually considered one of the best choices for the beginner because it allows you to fully relax your anus. Lying on your side is another great choice for the same reason. A great position to work towards is taking it while on top because you have the advantage of controlling the speed and depth and making all you want! This position though is NOT recommended for a beginner because it causes you to involuntarily tighten your muscle which makes penetration harder.
And finally; don’t play dirty—meaning: keep in mind the area that you’ve been playing in and try not to trek anything where it doesn’t belong! Avoid going from ass to mouth or vagina without a thorough washing to keep from spreading bacteria that could be harmful.
Following all of these steps is sure to guarantee a truly erotic anal session, so play nice and enjoy going where many others are still too chicken to go!
by Adrie Santos
Filed under: For couples | Tagged: Anal sex, Ass Play, Greek
i used to think it wold hurt then i tried it last year too fast. these are way cool. i’m gonna try it with my new boyfriend this weekend!
We don’t use lube anymore, just spit…usually we start off with just regular sex then he will just pull out spit on my ass and push his head in till he gets it in the right spot I usually will guide him or say there or just let him know ok go ahead…then he will just slowly slide his head in a little, then a little more then out a bit then back in, normally only takes a few times and it’s fully in, he will pause for a slight moment and then I am the one who usually wants it hard immediately…what can I say I love it…I am used to it though to so I can take it pretty hard and fast and it doesn’t hurt me at all. The rougher the better. He will also to prolong his pleasure slow down and slide it all out then just with the head barely touching slowly inch his cock back in then out again…I cum instantly from anal so it by this point I am usually far off in lah lah land anyways lol…it’s all good though.
For me it has more sensations than regular sex. I get off on it just as much as my husband only for me it’s like one ongoing full body orgasm over and over till he cums. I literally am wiped of energy when we are down I can’t see straight my legs are numb it’s the best feeling for me personally. I do not get off on regular vaginal sex unless your hitting my gspot but again it has to be just the right position to do that and anal does that regardless of which position we use. I didn’t like it at first either it took a lot of off and on trying over the years till I really got used to it and loved it. We will regularly do it now, but when I first let my husband try it was a rare occurance.
i going to try it with my new partner next week…iv dun it b4 …so she game to try it…looking forward to this….