We’ve all seen it, heard about and laughed at it; but Anal Eze isn’t sounding so funny now that you’re considering squeezing a dick into that tiny hole, huh? Anal sex can be extremely pleasurable if done right and to do it right, you’ll need a couple of things: an open mind and lube, lube and MORE lube!
The need for lube is obvious, but even with all the lube in the world; if you’re uncomfortable, filled with anxiety and convinced that what your doing is wrong or dirty; you just won’t be relaxed enough to do it properly. While the taboo is part of the allure of anal sex to begin with; you have to be willing to embrace it if you’re going to go ahead with it and enjoy it. Many people miss out on the pleasure of anal because of a first time experience gone wrong which is such a shame, so this article is here to help you get started on the right foot… well, more like on your knees…
Starting off with a penis is a bit ambitious for the newbie, so I recommend a little finger play first. The idea of anal sex alone may be enough to arouse some, but if not; relaxing your muscles with a little masturbation or foreplay is a good start. Once aroused; use a finger (yours or theirs) and begin circling the anus lightly to help yourself get used to being stimulated there. Once you’re aroused enough; get out the lube and enjoy the feeling of slathering it around your hole until you’re well greased and primed for action.
Slip the lubed finger in slowly and take the time to tease and enjoy each inch (or half an inch) and continue to insert it for as long as it feels good. Another trick is to push out as you would during a bowel movement because this will open the sphincter and allow you to take the finger in deeper. Of course, the same should be done once you have graduated to a dick!
(Tip: The feeling of a finger in your ass during oral sex is especially arousing and a great way to introduce anal play to anyone who is reluctant.)
Enjoying the finger in the bum but still apprehensive when you see the wall of flesh that is his penis coming at you? Try one of the many butt toys on the market. Anal toys are smaller than a penis and often times, bigger than a finger; offering a great plateau for those who want more than finger play but still aren’t ready for full-on anal sex. These toys range from butt plugs and probes to anal beads, so there is something for every taste and comfort level.
When you have learned to relax and enjoy the sensation of something inside your butt; the transition to a penis will be easy and incredibly erotic.
A few things to keep in mind: hygiene is important here since you’re dealing with very delicate skin, so keeping your finger nails clean and trimmed will avoid any unwanted and painful mishaps. Also, protection is key; so condom use is just as important here as it is with any other type of sex. And finally, remember: anal sex is NOT dirty or wrong!! If you feel that it is, than you’re not ready to try it!
Happy probing!
Tips for amazing anal:
1) Lots and lots of lube
2) Start small and work your way up
3) Keep things clean.
by Adrie Santos
Filed under: For couples | Tagged: Anal sex, Ass Play, Greek
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I like anal sex occasionally, but not as a steady diet. I have to be the one to initiate it. One thing I am curious about is that I like to talk to boys about sex and what we like and don’t like. I have been with a few that will say they don’t want anal sex or enjoy it much, but then when I am in the mood and initiate it they never say no and there is no hesitation. A couple have gotten so excited they ejaculated before we got very far. I am sure it was their first time.
So I am just curious. Are there any guys that really don’t like or want it? Maybe when they say they don’t want it, they aren’t sure or they don’t want to admit they are curious about it.
i have had anal sex first it was just try it out with a girl both of us was bum virgins..i did enjoy it so did she…i dont mind every now an again….just when im in the mood….