Got a longing to give your lover a tongue lashing with words that they’ll never forget? Let me help you heat things up with some tips to make you a dirty talk pro, both in and out of the bedroom.
Talking dirty is much more than simply stringing together a few “c” words! Done right, dirty talk can set the mood for and carry you straight through hot, slippery, mind blowing sex—the kind that comes from a real connection with your lover. It can also open the lines of communication and help you get exactly what you want in bed without having to sound like the sex Nazi!
Some people find talking about sex difficult and uncomfortable, yet once in bed a symphony of filth seems to just spew out of them. Then there those who are the complete opposite; finding discussions about sex easy while talking dirty to their mate makes them feel silly. It’s time to check your inhibitions at the bedroom door (or car door, or mall door or park entrance…) and get ready to blow your partners mind the easiest way imaginable—no matter where you are!
Talking Dirty In Bed
This may seem like a great feat for the shy, but talking dirty in bed is easier than you realize. Let’s face it; if you’re already in bed with intention to do the deed, chances are that the mood’s already kinda hot, so just about anything said in a breathy whisper is gonna sound sexy!
What you say isn’t quite as important as how it’s said, so there’s no need to be longwinded or even eloquent. You need to get your body into it, so lean in super close and begin with a few soft kisses along the side of the neck and to the ear. Feel your partner react to your touch and your warm breath and nuzzle in closer. Something as simple as: you feel so good and I can’t get enough of you, is all it takes to get you in the groove and get your partner good and riled up. And if you are so bold; going into some breathy detail about what you can’t wait to do to them is sexy and intimate and doesn’t sound at all contrived—even if you may worry that it does. Who wouldn’t love to hear: I can’t wait to feel you inside me.
Feeling a little more at ease? Then it’s a great time to bring out the truly dirty talk and reap the rewards of the words that you were taught never to use! You know your partner, so should have a pretty good idea as to whether they’d be offended by a statement like: Nobody fucks me like you do baby or Mmm, your cunt/cock tastes so fucken good!
Talking Dirty In Private
When you’re sitting watching TV or making dinner; you may be in the mood to heat things up but worry that the timing isn’t quite right. Get over it! You can easily sex up the most mundane task with a few well placed words and the right body language.
Brushing up especially close as you reach for the remote or the blender and apologizing in a soft whisper as your hand runs down your partners back and flash a naughty grin is a great start. Why not ask: Do you know what I’d rather be doing with you right now? There are endless ways to flirtatiously foray into all out dirty exchange! You want it—tell them. It’s that easy.
Talking Dirty In Public
This is where you can have all kinds of fun! Imagine being surrounded by people and leaning in close to your partner, keeping a straight face and whispering “I’m going to fuck you silly when we get outta here”, as your partner melts at your feet—completely at your mercy while everyone else is oblivious to what you’ve just said or the heat that you’ve created south of the border! There is something super-sexy about having your own naughty little secret. What better time to enjoy that then at a crowded restaurant or even a family function? Talking dirty in a place where it’s least expected means that it will take very little to make a huge impact. So go for it!
Now my final tip to my little dirty talkers: if you are going to refer to your or your partners delicious parts, then please-oh-please DO NOT use proper medical terminology! There ain’t nothin’ sexy about saying: I can’t wait to shove my penis into your vagina. But first I wanna rub my swollen genitalia over your vulva and make your clitoris hard. Yuck.
by Adrie Santos
Filed under: For couples
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