When Size Matters: What to Do About a Small Package

 

We’ve all heard the ladies say that it’s not how big it is but rather how you use it, and while I am one of those women, I do know that to some—especially the guy with the small penis—it does matter. So, for you men who have ever struggled with insecurities about your little guy (sorry!); here are some tips for making the most of a small penis; from ways to make it appear bigger to positions to maximize pleasure.

Lose The Bush: You know the term “needle in a haystack”? That’s no different than small penis in a big bush! It makes perfect sense; if you want your penis to look bigger, then burying it in a mass of hair is not the way to go. Keep it super-trim or shave it off entirely to make your member look bigger.

Lose the Gut: Let’s face it; you can’t all be Ron Jeremy whose dick is so big that it still manages to look impressive jutting out from underneath his belly! Having a larger stomach is unhealthy to begin with, but in terms of what it does for the appearance of a small package is make it look even smaller. So do your penis and your health a favor and keep your weight in check. Losing weight will do wonders on not only your sex life, but all other aspects too.

A Hot Bath: This can actually help to make your penis bigger, even if only for awhile. The hot water will cause the tissue in your member to expand and appear engorged. (Take advantage of the hot bath and woo her with some foreplay that will make your penis size the least of her concerns)

Penis Pumps: These have always been the cause of confusion for many because some makers tout them as being able to offer a permanent size increase. While the reliability of that claim is yet to be proven, penis pumps are effective in helping you to get a bigger erection than usual. Use with a cock-ring to keep your member bigger for a longer amount of time.

Pleasure Maxing Moves for Little Guys

I still maintain my stance that size doesn’t matter as much as knowing what you are doing in bed. If you take the time to kiss, caress, tickle and suck, it’s unlikely that your size will make any difference to the experience at all. Remember that the majority of women will not climax during intercourse, so really; foreplay is your best friend. But, since I did promise you some special moves for deeper penetration, here you go:

Legs Over His Shoulders: Basically, any position that brings her ankles up near your ears will allow for maximum penetration which will make a smaller penis feel larger. Placing a pillow under her bottom will tilt her pelvis just right so you can take her nice and deep.

Doggie Style: This position offers several benefits since not only do you have the control to thrust deeply and the ideal angle if she leans forward and arches her back, but you are also more likely to hit her G-spot this way. Hit that spot and you will be known as her best lover EVER—small dick or not!

Cowgirl, Reverse Cowgirl, ANY form of Cowgirl: If you let her ride you whether she is facing you or away from you, this will allow her to lower down as deep as she wants. The more weight she places on you; the deeper you will be. Allowing her to take control will leave your hands free to play with all of her other delicious parts and keep you distracted enough that you will forget all of your penis size woes. *wink*

 

by Adrie Santos

For couples: Bondage for beginners

Part One – Start Simple 
A busy day at the office; a hectic day with the kids; you want some quality intimate time with your partner, but by now the drill is this – start with some kissing, touching and some light dirty talk, the “deed”, and so your sex life is a little blah and you’d like to try something new. You’ve wondered about something more exciting, but you’re not quite ready for daytime sex-in-the-park or inviting the hot FedEx driver into your perfect relationship. Being “restrained” by your significant other has some appeal for you, but maybe you’ve tried handcuffs as a teenager and it just didn’t quite satisfy. Being bound is an experience that can be very sensual and exciting and have you coming back for more. 

Without the benefit of having your hands, or legs, free, you can start to experience some purely pleasurable sensations. You will have to use other body language, or words, to convey how you are feeling, particularly if you are enjoying yourself and this can be very sexy. Having your partner bring you to the edge of orgasm and then withdrawing at the last second can be mindblowing. 

Since you’re a first-timer, keep it simple and fun to start. Look for things in your home that may work to restrain you without too much discomfort like a silk scarf or pantyhose. Just don’t get too creative with the knots because they can be impossible to untie as your six year old comes knocking on the door! A pair of police-issue handcuffs may be okay for those that don’t mind the feel of hard steel digging into flesh, but if you are purely interested in the feeling of being restrained and are not keen on the pain side of it, then there are plenty of novelty cuffs out there (eg. fuzzy cuffs), or soft cuffs designed specifically for bondage with velcro closures and connector clips. They are also easy to remove without having to fumble for a key. 

Whatever you choose, sit back and enjoy the experience of being restrained. Initially, you can experiment with different gentle sensations, such as tickling or smelling and tasting foods, with or without a blindfold. Experiment with a variety of things and remember to be open and verbal with your partner. And don’t forget, you’re not the only one who can get tied up!

by Lady Leather

Make your Cum Super Sweet

Semen is, at best, an acquired taste. While some people profess to enjoy the flavor of spunk, most report it to be saline, bitter, or acrid, likening it to salty bleach. Because the taste is a big obstacle to having their partner swallow, many men wonder what they can do to make their cum taste better.

You Cum What You Eat
Like sweat, saliva, urine, and all of your body’s other secretions and excretions, your ejaculate’s smell and flavor are affected by what you consume. (Likewise, you may notice when you eat out your female partner, her pussy juice flavor is affected by her diet) . What goes in, comes out, literally. Ever notice how when you eat a meal with a lot of onions and garlic, the smell seems to ooze out of your pores the next day? It’s in your semen as well, and although the specific taste or odor may be difficult to detect, it does have an influence on the overall taste.

While there’s no scientific evidence to back these tips up, there are anecdotal reports and common sense. Changing your diet and intake of other chemicals into your body will have an effect on your body’s output, including your semen. Most techniques or supplements to alter the flavor of semen aim to increase the amount of sugars in it, and sometimes mask the saltiness and other tastes with another flavor.

Sweet As Pie
It will come as a disappointment to all you party people, but the surest way to nicer tasting splooge is clean living. Cut back on your vices – alcohol, cigarettes, drugs (except maybe for Viagra), and junk food. Word is that vegetarians, both men and women, taste better, so you may want to steer clear of red meat, fish, and dairy. Indulge in lots of fresh fruits and veggies, and drink lots of juice and water.

Many people recommend eating pineapple or drinking pineapple juice to make you cum sweeter. Citrus fruits and cranberry juice are also recommended, possibly because they make the body’s pH more acidic, counteracting the alkalinity of semen that contributes to its “bleachy” quality. Any fruit or fruit juice high in sugar content, like apple, melon, mango, or grape, may increase the amount of sugars put out in your semen. Parsley, wheatgrass, and celery have been recommended for sweeter semen as well, perhaps because of the chlorophyll in them.

At the same time, you should also limit your intake of foods that break down into strong tasting or smelling chemicals that are excreted by the body, like asparagus. Onions and garlic contain high amounts of sulfur and are, well, oniony. And vegetables in the cabbage family, like Brussels sprouts, broccoli, cabbage, kale, and collards, can make your secretions taste bitter. Strongly spiced dishes, like curries, can also carry their flavors over into your cum. Of course, you don’t want to restrict what you eat too much. Everyone needs to have a balanced diet. But it’s something to keep in mind: if you’re planning on getting head after dinner, you might want to skip the asparagus appetizer.

Another factor to consider is the amount of time it takes for food and drink to cycle through your system. In most cases what you consume is excreted within 12 to 24 hours, but some things stay in the body longer. Whenever you start a new regimen, give it at least a few days to start working, and remember that you’ll probably have to stick to it to see marked effects.

A Magic Pill
There are a number of supplements now available that claim to improve the taste of semen or even alter it to specific flavors. Most contain concentrated fruit, sweetening agents, spices or flavorings, and sometimes vitamins or minerals. They may work for some people when used according to the directions, but don’t expect miracles.

One supplement promises to make your cum taste like pumpkin pie. Considering that it contains cinnamon, ginger, and nutmeg, that doesn’t seem all that farfetched. However, if a supplement claims to make your semen taste like vanilla or strawberry, you should be skeptical. Also beware of supplements that are sketchy about what their ingredients are. In most cases, these supplements are harmless, and may even have nutritional benefits, but they may not be worth the price if you can get the same results on your own.

Be Consistent
Besides flavor, another factor that affects the palatability of semen is its consistency. Stringy, chunky, or watery spunk can be unappetizing. The consistency of semen is related to the fluids, proteins, and amino acids in it, which can be affected by your overall health and what you eat. Drinking a lot of water is probably the best thing you can do to improve the texture of your semen; being dehydrated can make your spunk thicken or get stringy. Some people recommend eating egg whites or gelatin for increased volume of cum and better consistency, probably because of the protein they contain. Wheat germ and omega-3 oils have also been said to produce more and creamier cum.

Drink Up
Here’s a recipe for a drink that incorporates many popular cum-enhancing ingredients, as well as some used by cum-flavoring supplements. Though we can’t make guarantees, it might make your cum taste better, and it’s part of a balanced breakfast.

Super Spunk Smoothie

1 cup pineapple, fresh or canned
1 banana, frozen
1 cup apple juice
1/2 tsp ginger
1/2 tsp cinnamon
1/4 tsp nutmeg
1/2 tsp vanilla extract
2 TBS honey
Optional ingredients: 1 raw egg white, 2 TBS wheat germ, 2 TBS flax seed, 1 shot wheatgrass juice

Blend all ingredients in a blender until smooth. Drink immediately. Repeat daily for best results.

For her: The Basics of Talking Dirty to your Man

 

So there you are, naked (or maybe wrapped up in something delightfully sexy) and romping around with your guy in the sack, on the couch and against the wall. It’s hot. It’s passionate. It’s just great sex.

You’re itching to breathe some nasty phrases into his, but just as some hot language comes to your tongue, you wonder if he’ll freeze in his mid-grind, look at you with horror and go limp with disappointment.

Well, let the words fly because guys just plain old dig a good round of dirty talk more than most things. I mean, check out most porno where the women go to such lengths to talk dirty it often borders on the absurd and ridiculous.

So, without appearing to be the equivalent of some overstuffed porno queen and still give your guy some aural sex, have a read of these guidelines – straight from the male readers of luvloop.com

Start early – The best time to let some dirty talk fly can be just about anytime, including a few nasty words passed discreetly while he’s at work. Keep it light and matter of fact for maximum effect. ‘So we’ll hit a movie and dinner. You know, I feel like a nice hard dessert at my place later, and you’re on the menu’. Seems innocent enough, but this will keep your boy semi-stiff through his financial review that afternoon.

Toss in some tease – To get your guy’s juices flowing, toss in a few words here and there to keep him stretched inside his jeans. When he pays for parking, a casual ‘Nice ass, can I grab it later?’ works wonders, or something a little more direct like ‘Let’s go for the short movie because I’m too wet to wait’ will have him fumbling his popcorn all night.

During the deed – OK, so you’ve finally got your guy wrapped around your legs. This is where the real talkin’ starts! A few pointers here:

Push the limits with some hardcore language (within your comfort zone), so words like cock, pussy and ass are stiffening agents like no other.

Compliments like ‘your hard cock’ and ‘I want your sweet cum’ work really, really well. Guys like to feel confident in the sack, so the more you assure him he’s got what it takes, the better the effect.

Build it up over the session. Instead of ripping off your top and declaring ‘give me your big huge monster dong you king of cum’, start with a few light words and phrases and build it up to his climax.

When you’re in the throes of the hardest part of your sex, avoid the standard ‘Fuck me harder’ (which suggests your guy is not doing it properly) but go for something more sexy, like ‘Fuck me like an animal‘, or ‘Oh yeah, stuff it into my pussy like that!‘ Take a cue from your guy and see what he does when you say certain things.

Plus, guys are all about their orgasm – as almost all porn portrays, the cum shot is a big turn on for men. So, go with it and be the sexy vixen he loves to love – when he’s about to orgasm, tell him ‘C’mon, blast your cum inside me’ or ‘Give me your sweet cum in my mouth… I want it on my tongue… Spray my tits with your cum, baby!’

Guys like power-words and phrases using active, forceful verbs. Here are some keywords our male readers have offered up to add to your vocabulary:

Cram/Stuff/Jam/Shove your cock into my…

Blow/Spray/Dump/Shoot your cum in/on my…

Lick/Lap up my…

Pop your cock into my…

Tongue my…

I love your Hard/Stiff/Big/Nice cock…

Your cum is so Sweet/Yummy/Tasty

So, happy dirty talkin’ and here’s to great aural sex.

by Blake Palmerston

Craving some from another woman?

Why are so many girls kissing girls these days? Cuz’ it’s hot! So if you’re ready to give in to your curiosity; this article will tell you how to go about getting the girl-on-girl action you crave. And as for curiosity killing the cat-that’s not always the case-sometimes giving in is the only way to satisfy a curious pussy!

Most women at some point or another have thought of what it would be like to be with another woman; it’s natural and very common. For many it won’t ever go beyond a fleeting thought or a fantasy, but for the truly bi-curious you are in a great time to feed those curiosities since girl-on-girl play seems to be hitting the mainstream in books, films and media in general; making it a lot less taboo than it used to be. This also means that women are less afraid to admit that they’re longing to taste another woman; making likeminded hotties much easier to find.

Making your first bi experience as hot as can be will mean going into it wholeheartedly. Be sure that this is what you really want as opposed to going the ‘Girls Gone Wild’ route and doing it while piss drunk or on a dare or in a pathetic attempt to impress a horny boyfriend.

Shaking the myth that this makes you a lesbian is important too. Whether it comes before or after the experience; questioning your orientation is inevitable but you shouldn’t allow it to be a cause of turmoil. If you have always been with men and known that you were straight; the desire to experiment with sex with another woman does not make you gay! It’s time to stop stressing and start exploring some sexy new plains…

Where to Find Lady Lust

Finding your playmate can be a lot easier than you think. The first avenue to consider would be someone that you may already know. While I don’t recommend your best friend, (could get awkward and hurt the friendship) any girl that you may have gotten a little touchy feely with in the past would be great. If you really think about it, many of us have been out with friends and come across another girl that we practically flirted with-even if only in jest, but it could indicate a little bit of chemistry which could make for a great time.

If you can’t think of anyone or prefer the anonymity of someone entirely knew; finding other girls in your situation to choose from couldn’t be easier thanks to personals in alternative newspapers or even on Craigslist. There are also hundreds of websites and phone lines that cater to people looking for casual encounters; including same sex action.

When you sit down to browse the ads you should already have a good idea of what you’re looking for in terms of age, race, etc, but another important choice is whether you would prefer someone “bisexual” who is already experienced or someone who is “bi-curious” like yourself. Both can have their perks, for instance; being with someone experienced means that she can show you the ropes and take the lead, while a newbie offers the comfort of knowing that you’re in the same boat and maybe even a little less pressure.

A bit of friendly advice: don’t bother responding to ads where the woman has indicated that she is a lesbian. There is a huge difference between being a lesbian and being bi and if she is looking for another lesbian-you are NOT what she wants-no matter how hot or how willing you are! A lesbian is clear on her orientation and most likely seeking something more than just a fling to feed your curiosity or get you off, so avoid sticky situations by knowing the difference.

Now That You’ve Found the Lucky Girl

Whether you picked her out of an ad online or up at a party, you need to set some ground rules before you play. Talk to her about your curiosities and fantasies and what you hope to get out of the experience. If you’ve gotten this far, what’s the point in being shy or holding back? Be honest about your insecurities; chances are that she feels or has felt the same way too. Make sure that you also give her the opportunity to express what she wants, because aside from being sexy; it will also give you clues as to how to start when you do finally hook up. This is also the time to mention anything that you’re not comfortable with trying the first time-pussy can be acquired taste and may be a little intimidating for a first time!

Don’t let the fire in your loins blur your judgment and common sense! If this is someone that you’re meeting for the first time, choose a public place; just cuz’ she’s a female doesn’t mean that you should put your safety at risk. And once you are meeting with the intention of getting it on; choose a place that you are both comfortable with.

It won’t matter if you’ve had a hundred conversations or one; the first time you meet at your special place it’s bound to be nerve-wracking. Keep the mood light and ease into things by having a drink, watching a movie – anything that you both enjoy.

Remember that your goal is to explore your bi-side, with the keyword being ‘explore’. Take the time to caress and feel her body and savor every inch. Undress each other slowly and touch her the way that you like to be touched.

No two people are exactly the same but it’s a good place to start. Anything from here on will be a breeze. Just follow your instincts, be respectful and do what comes naturally.

Happy Trails!

by Adrie Santos

Our favorite oral tricks – Bring your guy to his knees every time with these simple tips

Most guys agree getting oral is one of life’s simple pleasures. It’s brings true pleasure and nothing makes a man feel more pampered – sexually. For a guy, there’s nothing quite so sexy watching you work your magic on his member. Here’s how to master the basics of a mind-blowing blow job:

1) Drive him mad your hands and tongue. Us guys love the anticipation of oral and a slow intro works magic. If he’s not already naked, start with some light but firm touching on top of his clothes, running your fingers over his groin area, inside his thighs and along his belt line. Wen you feel him getting hard, unzip him and let his cock pop out. Pull down his pants to his knees (it lets him move a better) and spend time with your hands. Work gently with him – remember, his cock may be rock hard, but it needs a tender touch. Grab his ass a bit and stroke the underside of his balls and cock with your fingers. Drive him crazy by keeping your slightly open mouth close to the action, then use your hand to move his cock to your mouth. Run your lips along the sides while holding his cock, kiss the head and lick the underside of his penis. Eye contact is especially sexy since he’ll be looking down at all the action.

2) Zone him into ecstasy with your mouth. He might start holding your head – it’s a sign he can’t take it anymore. You may need to settle into a more comfortable position, or at least one you can hold for a while. Now, hold his cock with your hand at the base and envelope his head with your mouth. Focus on the head for now, and slowly work the base of his penis with your hand being careful not to grab too hard (sometimes, a light ring made with your fingers is perfect). Work up saliva and go a bit deeper, bringing your hand motion to meet your mouth. The wetness will help glide your hand over his skin and really heat things up as you combine hand and mouth. Rhythm and speed is important, so count out a steady beat in your head to keep him on track. Keep in mind, guys need the same kind of sensation during oral as they have during intercourse, so mimic the slippery rhythm.

3) Add variety to finish. Since oral can last a while, give him and yourself some variety by adding some out-of-mouth technique. If you have enough saliva on his skin, let his cock pop out of your mouth and stroke him with your hand, top to bottom at the same speed. Lick the sides of his penis and then go back to using your mouth. Stoke him while licking his testicles and along the underside of his cock. Alternate between these and your mouth, picking up speed as you go. A lot of eye contact, a bit of dirty talk and even some sexy touching of yourself add to the mental rush of it all.

Tips:
- Use a light touch with your hands
- Your hands and mouth make an amazing oral symphony
- Smiles and eye contact is a major turn on

Have fun!
By Blake Palmerston

Make her come before you do (for a change!)

So, there you are, in the home stretch of intercourse with your partner and you feel that impossible-to-ignore swell of stimulation from your loins as you pound away. You know you’re about to pop your top in a few minutes (no matter how many times you count backwards from 1,476), but you want her to come before you. Unless you’ve read our tricks and tips below, you might just beat her to the climax (insert line here about rolling over or flicking on the tube).

Plan way ahead.
Unless you’re hooking up for the first time with the neighbor you’ve lusted after for 5 years, take your time in the beginning because the casanovas know women love a slow entry to love making. Kiss her, massage her and tease her. Whisper a few dirty words in her ear and spend time in the secret parts of her body. She needs to be wet before her clothes even start dropping to the floor.

Get your first shot over with
If you’ve eaten your vitamins, and feel you can blow two shots on your session, then you’ve got an advantage. Your second orgasm will take longer to happen and help you last longer during sex, giving her more time to have an orgasm.

Be a man. Use your tongue.
Before you rush into the doggie style position, limber up your tongue (yeah, the same one you abuse sports teams with) and put it to work on her nipples, tummy and pussy. Yes gentlemen, you have a mission to get her seriously pre-heated with at least one good orgasm with your oral expertise. Tip – give her oral just before you enter her so she’s primed for orgasm right from the moment you start doing your magic grind.

Pull out and get down!
If you’re pumping away and you feel she’s not on track to come before you, then pull out and dive in for a good 15 second tongue-lashing on her clitoris. It’ll give you a break, and help her get more turned on for your next round. Repeat as required.

Have her help
Some women are apprehensive to masturbate during sex. Guide her fingertips to her clit and encourage her to work herself while you work her. You’ve seen it in porn for a reason – it works!

Find her favorite position
Yeah, yeah, so you love her on top because you get to handle her delicious boobs and butt while she rides you like a cowboy. Save it for later and focus on positions she get most turned on by. Luvloop readers all tell us the love it most “from behind”, but ask her what feels the best or turns her on the most and then try that position the most.

Get a toy
Put aside any notion that you’ll be left alone Friday night flipping channels if you let a sex toy into the room. You can score some serious points with a tiny bullet vibrator you or she can hold against her clit or backdoor while you do your pile driving. No matter what, women love warm flesh over cold plastic, but the two combined can drive her to screams.

Be a bit on an animal
Guys who just lean back and thrust away miss out stimulating their ladies to a frenzied orgasm with some simple caveman moves. Do to her what she loves that’s a bit naughty. Spanking, pulling hair, pinching or dirty talk. Give it to her with authority and be a man (before you roll over and start snoring).

So, there you go gents. Give it a try one thing at a time and see how she responds. Having her tighten on you when she comes will probably send you over the edge, and you’ll both collapse in a heap of happiness.

The hottest 7 sex moves ever

Looking to heat things up to scorching level in the bedroom? We’ve got 7 HOT sex moves that everyone should try at least once-if you dare!

Raunchy Recliner: This move is female-superior at its finest! Have your guy sit up with his legs out straight and slightly apart with his palms down on the floor/bed for balance. Girls, face him and take a seat in between his legs and slide up close enough to put him inside of you. Once all snug in place, lean back using your hands for support and place your legs onto his shoulders and let him thrust away! Use a pillow under your butt for some extra support. This yummy position allows you to be in control of just how deep he thrusts while he does most of the work-not that he’ll be complaining. 

Coffee, Tea or Me: Taking a sip of a hot drink just before heading south to slow his mind will heat things up just right! Try peppermint tea to not only surprise him with a hot treat but also a slightly tingly one thanks to the mint.

A Surprise Tongue Lashing: Combine some lip action with an element of surprise by taking your mouth to your partner when they least expect it. Pull out of her and quickly turn your attention to her clit using your tongue for a few minutes before heading back inside! Girls, just as your man thinks you’ve had enough foreplay, slide your way down as low as you can go and suck on his balls or use your tongue to tickle the space just beneath them and drive him wild! Making him pull out of you and slide into your mouth will also offer him the added excitement of knowing that you’re tasting yourself on him-a treat that many guys admit to enjoying! 

Keep Your Panties On: Our most memorable sexy times seem to be from our younger years when it was all about the tease and the anticipation. Remember how hot it was making out for hours and indulging in some over the clothes play? Well, resist the urge to strip down and get right to it and leave your panties on for as long as possible for an awesome build up. Pulling them off to the side for a rub here, a finger there or just a naughty glimpse will drive you both wild with excitement and make skin-on-skin contact even more sweet!

The Safe Exhibitionist: We all have an exhibitionist side though most of us can’t quite seem to build up the nerve to have sex in public. To satisfy the exhibitionist in your and rock your partners world; move out of the bed and over to the window in a dark room, strip down and press your body against it while inviting your partner to join you. This will make you both feel naughty and add a rush of excitement to any night!

Shut Up And Fuck Me: Sex in the dark is not new to any of us, but sex in a room that is pitch black and silent is another story. Use sheets and blankets to block out any trace of light in a room, have your partner join you completely naked and enlist a ‘no-talking’ rule. Feel your way around each other’s bodies and focus on the anonymity of having completely blind sex. Every slide of your tongue, every touch and each delicious thrust will be a surprise and the sounds of your pleasure will intensify the experience making it hotter than your run-of-the-mill lights-out sex.

A Pseudo Threesome: Bringing another person into the bedroom is a common fantasy that very few couples ever actually make a reality. Surprise your partner by treating him or her to a threesome… or foursome…via webcam! There are several sites out there that are strictly for those looking for some webcam fun, so log on and find a person or couple who is into having sex on camera while you do the same. Watch and be watched and even tell each other what to do for your viewing pleasure. Turn up the audio and check your inhibitions at the door! 

by Adrie Santos

The Erotic Pleasure of Masturbation, Alone and With Your Partner

Want to learn what it takes to give yourself mind-blowing orgasms every time? Then you are in luck, because these simple steps will send you well on your way to lovin’ yourself right!

Too few of us even consider masturbation a part of our “sex lives”, but solo play can be one of the most important things that you do for you and your partner, because when it’s just you and your desire; anything goes which is the perfect opportunity for you to relax and learn what feels good.

There are a couple of myths about masturbation that you need to banish from your mind in order to get the most from this yummy pastime, so repeat after me: Masturbation is not dirty or wrong, even if my mother/father/priest says it is! Once your mind is free of any negative views on self play; it’s time to truly get in touch with yourself.

First, you need to set aside some quiet time so you can relax and enjoy without any unwanted interruptions. Pull out all the stops and do whatever it takes to make you feel sexy whether it’s a warm bath, candles or Barry White playing in the background. Next, use the power of your mind to get you in the mood. Fantasizing is a great way to get your juices flowing—literally! Thinking back to a hot encounter from your past, or imagining Brad Pitt licking every inch of your body will help prime you for action.

Next, begin to touch yourself and pay attention to what feels good. Some women find it helpful and very erotic to watch themselves in a mirror as they explore their bodies and I must say that having a visual could make it a lot easier to share the directions to your hot spots with your partner, cuz’ lets face it; some guys really do need a map to know where things are even if they never dare stop to ask for directions!

Now the fun part: technique. Running your fingers lightly over your skin will help to arouse you allover. Take advantage of your hardened nipples and rub them, pinch them or even wet your finger and tease them—self lovin’ doesn’t need to be limited to your pussy alone! Tease your inner thighs with light caresses, or if you like things a little rougher-knead the flesh between your fingers—whatever feels good to you and it shouldn’t be long before you’re feeling hornier than a teenage boy on prom night!

Once you’re feeling that familiar longing within, it’s time to get wet. For some women; lube is just not an issue and they have plenty to go around, but for others, there is always store bought lubricant. Being wet will make for a much easier and more pleasurable session since it will allow your hands or toys to slip about with ease.

All wet and ready to go? Enjoy that sensuous and juicy pussy of yours by placing your palm flat down and rubbing it slowly over your vulva. Pay extremely close attention here and go back and apply extra pressure on any of the spots that feel especially good.

Take a finger and experiment with different strokes and flicks over these spots. The most common source of pleasure is the clit, so with your lubed finger, begin rubbing your nub where it feels best and keep at it until you find a pressure and pace that is especially delicious. Another way to increase the sensation is to experiment with your breathing; taking deeper, longer breaths will help up the WOW-factor and help you to really savor the experience. Another technique that will help make your self-love session hotter is to gyrate or raise and lower your pelvis as you might during sex. It isn’t just about fingers and hands my friends!!

One other thing that you can try is to slip a finger or two, or a dildo inside your pussy, because even though most women need clitoral stimulation to climax; the feeling of being filled while you stroke your clit can make your orgasm even better.

Once you have found your groove; keep at it; tweaking as needed until you begin to feel the wave of pleasure as your orgasm makes its way through your body. Don’t let anything hold you back and just let go and ride the wave! Moan, scream, cry—let your body do whatever the heck it wants so long as it feels good and helps you to cum like never before.

Your parents and teachers had something when they said that “practice makes perfect”. Far better than piano lessons or math; practicing and fine tuning your masturbation skills will prove far more enjoyable and not at all like a chore! Use your skills to impress your lover by showing him what you’ve been up to; which brings me to masturbating for/with your man.

The act of playing with yourself in front of your partner is incredibly erotic even if the idea of putting on a show seems a little scary to you. If stage fright is a real problem; begin with some wet, sexy kissing and other foreplay, and once you’re both deep in the throws of passion, place his hand on his cock, flash a wicked grin and then begin to play with your pussy—he’ll get the gist pronto!

Some key things to keep in mind when masturbating for your man:

– Eye contact is not only erotic but very intimate and is sure to enhance the experience for you both.

– Confidence is sexy… period.

- Finally; enjoy yourself because seeing you turned on will excite him to no end and let’s face it; it’ll work in your favor cuz nothing feels better than a hard cock pushing into you once you’ve just finished climaxing! So go ahead and scream like a banshee—he’ll love it!

by Adrie Santos

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First Time Sex – Things that you both gotta know

 

So you’ve finally decided that you can’t take it much longer; the sweet agony of long make-out sessions and endless hours of heavy petting. You’re finally ready for the main event—sex! Before you jump out of your knickers there are a few things that you should know to help make your first time as memorable and delish as can be.

First and foremost, your decision to start having sex should be your own and no one else’s. We shouldn’t need to say it, but sex should ALWAYS be consensual on both parts. Everyone has different reasons for waiting or not waiting and pressure from others should never be one of them. Regardless of age; the decision to get busy should be yours and it should feel right because the last thing you need is regrets.

Next on the agenda is safe sex. As unromantic as you may think this seems;you need to discuss with your partner what type of protection you will be using. Condoms are always recommended regardless of whatever other method you may use since they are the only way to protect you from STD’s… except for abstinence which you obviously have opted against if you’re reading through this article! Ladies – don’t just leave it up to the man to carry condoms – this is your body too and you shouldn’t just expect someone else to take care of it for you. Pick up your own stash of condoms to avoid any mishaps or ruined evenings or worse. There’s nothing more unromantic than an unplanned pregnancy or an STD!

Finally we get to the good stuff-the tips to make it great! Keeping it as light as possible is important ‘cuz the last thing you need is to be even more nervous and on edge when you’re trying to have sex. While you don’t necessarily want your first time to be in a back alley or in the car; don’t get too wrapped up in the place you choose and trying to set up some over-the-top ambiance. All you really need here is a place that’s comfortable and quiet where you can play sans interruption. Regardless of your age, first time penetration will be slightly painful for her and likely quite quick for him and definitely a little awkward for you both, so taking your time and resisting the urge to race with your overzealous hormones will be worth your while. Enjoy every delicious second and every sweet inch as you explore each others bodies and don’t skimp on the foreplay ‘cuz not only does it feel awesome, but it will help to relax you and get you nice and primed for the main event-not to mentioned lubed!

Play safe, consider each others feelings and pleasure and don’t worry about making it romantic-movie perfect but rather perfect for you which should mean exciting, awkward, silly, fun, slippery, messy and most of all wonderful!

 

 by Adrie Santos